What can I do to adjust to my father getting remarried?

Kadyn,

Change can be difficult in any situation, especially in those situations that involve family. The difficulty of adjustment can sometimes bring about hurt, and it sounds as if the situation that you are facing has hurt you and even made you a little angry.

There are many ways to handle the emotions that you are feeling. I’m sure that because you are hurt, it feels natural to be angry and to want to act in that anger. To be honest, in one way or another, we all have problems with anger. Sometimes the anger is quiet and we keep it in harboring feelings of resentment for the person or situation that has made us angry. Other times the anger is loud causing us to yell and say hurtful things. The good news is, God speaks about anger and gives us direction for how to deal with it:

Recognizing the sin of anger…

When we are feeling hurt and angry, we have to know that Satan can use those times to damage the relationships that we have with those that we love. I noticed that you made mention that your relationships with your friends and those at school have suffered, and that is an example of the ways that Satan can use our emotions against us. It is important to remember that the relationships that we have should bring honor and glory to God and that can’t happen when we’re angry. To get rid of those feelings, we must confess the sin of anger before God. In 1 John 1:9 the Bible says, “But if we confess our sins to God, He can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.”
Don’t forget…
You don’t have to deal with this on your own. When you are feeling weak and burdened, give the feelings that you have over to God. In 1 Peter 5:6 & 7 the Bible says, “Be humble in the presence of God’s mighty power, and He will honor you when the time comes. God cares for you, so turn all your worries over to Him.”

Jesus, I ask that You be with Kadyn. I ask that You make your presence known during her moments of weakness. Place Your hand upon her and strengthen her faith. I ask that Your love shine through her that she might find ways to mend those relationships that are suffering. Lord, I ask that You put opportunities in Kadyn’s path that she might be able to talk to her father and express how she feels. I also ask that You give Kadyn opportunities that she might reach out to this new addition to her family. Heavenly Father, I ask that you continue to mold Kadyn and use her to spread Your light and Your love to those around her. All of these things I ask in Jesus’ name, Amen.